Graciously Accepting Help with Your Job Search (Part 2)

My friends and family members know that I provide individual coaching for people looking for jobs, and it's something I really enjoy, which means that I will happily lend an hour of my time to help with their job search.

However, the following situation happens often.

Friend or family member posts on Facebook, "I have sent out so many job applications and I'm not getting any responses! What am I doing wrong?"
I reply, "Hey! I'd be happy to look over your resume if you want any feedback."
They reply, "OMG that would be so great! Thank you!"

And then they never send it to me. And some weeks later they'll post another status complaining again about how they don't understand why they can't get a job.

Or sometimes someone will ask for pointers for an upcoming interview, and I'll offer to do a practice interview, and they'll say thanks and never follow up on finding a time.

There may be any number of reasons for this, and I can only speculate. Sometimes people are just not willing to put in the time and energy needed to stand out as a job applicant. Sometimes people are very sensitive and are afraid feedback would feel like criticism. Sometimes people just want to vent and actually think they're doing just fine.

But there may come a time when you know something's not working with your job search, and that's when seeking and accepting feedback can be incredibly valuable. This doesn't mean asking everyone you know for a piece of advice; it can mean specifically going to an older, more experienced mentor or hiring a job search coach.

Then it's up to you to make time for that person, listen closely to their advice, and take a hard look at where you might need to make changes to your applications or interview skills. Graciously accepting help means being able to see this feedback not as criticism but as your ticket to helping your land the job you want.